Author Archive

Thumb’s Up For Lane

September 21, 2012 Leave a comment

Thumb’s Up For Lane.

Categories: Uncategorized

Thumb’s Up For Lane

September 21, 2012 1 comment

Thumb's Up For Lane

A Kentucky boy fighting a rare and aggressive form of childhood cancer wants to see his Facebook page grow to 100,000 likes.

Lane Goodwin, 13, was first diagnosed with Stage IV alveolar rhabdomyosarcoma in 2010. After a relapse this year, his parents recently learned the cancer had spread to Lane’s brain.

Lane is from McLean County, and friends and family said his fighting spirit throughout his illness has been not only remarkable, but also inspiring.

His fighting spirit is going viral online. The page “Prayers for Lane Goodwin” reached more than 50,000 likes in a short period of time.

Lane’s friends are hoping that number can grow to over 100,000 likes as they continue to pray for a miracle.

Lane is known for giving thumbs up to go along with his positive attitude. People everywhere are now giving Lane thumbs up to show support.

A book of hope is being compiled for the family with pictures of friends and supporters giving Lane thumbs up.

WLKY is getting on board and giving Lane thumbs up as he continues his battle. Join us by uploading your thumbs up photos to the u local slideshow below. Make sure to upload your photos using the “Thumbs Up For Lane” category or Go To Prayers for Lane Goodwin.

Send Lane a card or other well-wishes:

Lane Goodwin
P.O Box 105
Beech Grove, KY 42322

Donations for Lane can be made at any Independence Bank under George and Angela Goodwin for Lane Goodwin. You can call the bank at 270-278-2351 or send it to the bank at:

Independence Bank
P.O. Box 39
Livermore, KY 42352

Give Thumbs up for Lane!

Why is Sex Good for You

Sex Improves Health and Happiness
Sexually active people take fewer sick leaves, are more gregarious and enjoy life more. This is the finding of Dr Ted Mcllvenna, from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, when he conducted an ongoing study of the sex lives of 90,000 American adults. Now you know why your bosses are so sickly while grandma is still alive and kicking at 89.

Sex Regulates Your Hormones
Women who have intercourse at least once a week are more likely to have normal menstrual cycles than women who are celibate or who take a “feast-or-famine” approach. This finding is based on a research done by Dr Winnifred Cutler, a specialist in behavioral endocrinology, and director of the Athena Institute for Women’s Wellness in Pennsylvania. So, if your spouse is holding a job that requires frequent travel, tell him it’s high time he considered a change.

Sex Boosts Estrogen
The research by Dr Cutler, who had asked several hundred female students to keep a record of their menstrual cycles and sexual behavior, also reported that women who enjoyed regular weekly sex with a man had significantly higher levels of estrogen in their blood than women experiencing either sporadic sex or none at all. The benefits of estrogen are numerous: a healthy cardiovascular system, lower bad cholesterol, higher good cholestrol, more bone density and supple skin. Save money on expensive face creams. Switch to condoms.

Sex Burns Calories
At least 4.2 calories per minutes; compared to four calories per minute playing tennis for an average woman weighing 54kg. That’s the estimate given by a professor of obstetrics and gynaecology at the Medical College of Wisconsin, Dr Alfred Franger. Just don’t use Nutella or whipped cream for foreplay.

Sex Strengthens Pelvic Muscles
Martica K Heaner, American fitness guru and author, believes that gripping a penis with your vagina does what Kegel exercises do- tones and conditions the muscles of the pelvic floor. These muscles play a vital function when it comes to good posture, straighter back and flatter abdominals. Every woman’s dream. No points for guessing what athletes really do when they’re not training…

Sex Relieves Menstrual Cramps
Orgasms may also help to relieve period pains which are the result of the endometrial lining of the uterus being oversensitive to the hormone-like substance, prostaglandin. “These nasty hormones have a way of making the uterus go into spasm, triggering pain- inducing nerve fibers,” explains Dr Roy Levin, a lecturer in Physiology at the Sheffield University, England. To cut a long story short, just do it.

Sex Boosts Your Immune System
Orgasms boost infection-fighting cells up by 20 per cent… so says Dr Dudley Chapman, a gynaecologist. Someone should call this the sex vaccine.

Sex Reduces Stress
“During arousal, your muscles tense; during orgasm, they twitch, then relax completely,” says ’50s sex researcher, Alfred Kinsey. This may explain why the institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality has found people with fulfilling sex lives less anxious, violent and hostile- the perfect tranquilizer for those who slog all day in the office for that big promotion.

Sex Relieves Pain
In studies carried out by researchers Beverly Whipple and Barry Komisaruk from Rutgers University, New Jersey, women with conditions such as arthritis and whiplash gain a higher pain threshold through regular orgasms. Historically, midwives advised women to masturbate to orgasm to relieve labor pains. (Quite a tall order considering you have to do it in front of those nurses.)

Sex Can Cure Headaches
A South Illinois School Of Medicine study on 52 migraine sufferers reported that 16 experienced considerable relief after an orgasm and another eight had their headaches completely gone. No reason now to say, “Not tonight honey, I’m having a headache.”


Categories: Uncategorized

10 Stages of Mourning the Loss of A Loved One

  1. Allow yourself to grieve the loss of your parent. The grieving process includes shock, denial, bargaining, guilt, anger, depression, resignation, acceptance and finally hope.

  2. Give yourself as much time as you need with each part of the process. If you don’t go through every stage, that’s fine-don’t pretend you’re going through it.

  3. Talk about your deceased parent with your surviving parent, your siblings, other family members and any supportive friends.

  4. Talk about the death, your feelings about the death, your relationship with your parent, happy memories, sad memories and angry memories.

  5. Give yourself permission to feel whatever it is you’re feeling, be it anger, relief, guilt, confusion, depression, sadness, indifference, disbelief or all the above. Express these emotions in whatever way is helpful to you.

  6. Find an outlet to express your grief and sense of loss, using your talents or desires. Go on a trip, paint a picture that reflects your feelings, write a poem, compose a song or start a journal.

  7. Spend time with your loved ones, including your surviving parent and siblings, who are also going through a difficult time and need your support.

  8. Accept support from friends and other relatives. Surround yourself with positive people, but give yourself some space and alone time, too.

  9. Find something you can do to honor your parent’s memory. Fulfill one of your parent’s dreams, donate to charity on your parent’s behalf, create a scrapbook of your parent’s life, paint a picture and hang it up or publish a poem in your parent’s memory.

  10. Consider seeing a professional counselor if you sink into depression that won’t lift, if you feel you can’t cope with life or if you need help with the grieving process.


5 Stages of a Relationship

Have you ever wondered: Why is our relationship so hard? Things were so perfect when we first met – what happened? Most likely, the answer is that you’ve left the first stage of your relationship, and have moved into another. But could it really be that easy?

Yes! Most people understand that relationships grow and change over time… but what many people don’t know is that they tend to evolve in the same way. There are specific, defined stages of long-term relationships, which offer new feelings, new challenges to overcome, and new opportunities for growth. And if you want your relationship to evolve into one of mutual respect, love and intimacy, it’s likely that you’ll have to experience all of the following relationship stages at some point or another. Take a look at the description of each phase – do any of this sound familiar?

Before we get started, you should know that most people experience these stages in this order, and will need to resolve the challenges in each stage before they can move successfully on to the next. Of course there are always exceptions to this rule. But for the most part, you can’t get out of experiencing all of these stages if you want a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Every couple will move through these stages at different speeds, and most people will experience each stage more than once – it is common to fluctuate from one stage to another.*

Okay, now that I’ve given you the basic info, let’s dig a little deeper….

Stage 1 – The Romance Stage

This is also known as the Courtship Phase or the Fantasy Stage, and can last anywhere from 2 months to 2 years. This is when you and your partner have just met, and everything is absolutely amazing. You can’t get enough of each other. Neither of you can do any wrong in the eyes of the other… mainly because you’re both still on your best behavior. The focus in this stage is on commonalities – you have so many common interests, you could practically be the same person! You show your partner your absolute best self, and you try to please each other as much as possible. Conflict is seen as “bad” in this stage, and is avoided at all costs. You can’t imagine living without this person, so you begin spending as much time together as possible. This is the stage when our defenses are down the most, which allows you to be open to and fall in love. You and your partner are building an important foundation in this stage, so your relationship can grow. There are biological effects as well. When you’re in this stage, your body is producing enormous amounts of endorphins, which makes you feel unusually happy, positive and excited about everything in your life (this is that “head over heels in love” feeling!). This is the stage most often portrayed in movies and romantic novels, for obvious reasons. Bottom line – you are happier than you’ve ever been, and can’t imagine ever feeling any differently.

Stage 2 – The Disillusionment Stage

This stage is also known as the Familiarization Stage, or the Adjusting to Reality Phase. This is where you begin to realize that your partner is actually a human being (horror of horrors!). You get to know each other more and more, and as a result you start recognizing their various flaws and shortcomings. You see your partner in relaxed situations, and you become more relaxed as well. Since your body cannot possibly continue to produce the same levels of endorphins that it was in the beginning, those feelings of being on top of the world start to decline. Your partner’s little habits aren’t quite as cute as they used to be, but there is still enough goodwill from the Romance Stage that you’re willing to overlook them. This stage can start to trickle into your relationship slowly, as you begin to see your partner for who s/he really is. Or sometimes it happens all of a sudden, when there has been some sort of dishonesty or deceit. This phase can be confusing and discouraging, since you’ve just experienced so much openness and connection in the Romance Stage. However, at this stage, your main job is to learn how to communicate and resolve conflict with this person effectively, which is an important skill if you want your relationship to continue.

Stage 3 – The Power Struggle Stage

This stage is also known as the Disappointment Phase or Distress Stage. As the characteristics from the Disillusionment Phase intensify, they become harder and harder to deal with. You will most likely begin to pull away from each other in this stage. At this point, you both still believe that conflict is a “bad” thing, but you are increasingly aware of your many differences. You fight to draw boundaries in the relationship, and as a result even small annoyances become big issues. This is the stage where you define unacceptable behavior, and most couples have occasional or frequent thoughts of leaving the relationship. More and more often, you start to feel like your partner is self-centered or un-caring, or even worse, that they simply can’t be trusted. Deep resentments begin to build if you’re unable to resolve your issues in a respectful and mutually agreeable way. Many couples get stuck in this stage, because this way of interacting becomes normal in their relationship. This is when it is absolutely necessary to learn to manage your differences effectively – to communicate and work together as a team, even though it’s tempting to believe that your partner’s sole purpose on Earth is to make your life difficult. Not surprisingly, this is the stage most couples are in when they decide to break up or file for divorce. However, if they are able to negotiate all of the landmines during this phase, they’ll move on to….

Stage 4 – The Stability Stage

This is a restful and peaceful time, compared to the last stage. This stage is also known as the Friendship Phase or Reconciliation Stage. Some couples never make it to this stage, but the ones who do find that they have deeper feelings of love, connection and trust with their partner. You now have history together, and most people begin to rely on the predictability of the relationship. As you enter this stage, you begin to realize that your partner isn’t perfect, but your personal differences aren’t quite as threatening as they used to be. You’re able to resolve most of your differences, at least to some extent, and you become more confident in the relationship. Some people feel a sense of loss in this stage as they learn to accept their partner for who they truly are, since this means they have to let go of the fantasy that was established early on in the relationship. But for the most part, the deepening sense of friendship and commitment is a good trade-off for those early feelings of butterflies and excitement. This is also when you begin to re-establish your own outside interests and friendships, which were given up in the Romance Phase. There is some danger that you may begin to drift apart from or become bored with your partner in this phase, so you should try to maintain the connection that was created in the Romance Phase. Overall, this is the stage when you finally begin to feel comfortable and happy with your deepening relationship.

Stage 5 – The Commitment Stage

This stage is also known as the Acceptance Phase, the Transformation Stage, or the Real Love Phase. It is estimated that fewer than 5% of couples actually make it to this stage, according to The Relationship Institute. This is the stage when both couples have a clear notion of who their partner is, faults, foibles and weaknesses galore… yet they make a conscious choice to be with this person in spite of all of those things (and in some cases, because of those things). You are no longer with your partner because you need them, but because you’ve chosen them, which means the level of resentment you felt in the Power Struggle Phase has decreased, if not disappeared. If you’ve made it to this stage, you and your partner are a team. You genuinely love your partner, and you look out for their best interests just as much as you look out for your own. Your partner is your best friend. There are few surprises about your partner’s habits or character in this phase. You’ve collaborated to overcome many challenges together, and have grown to accept and support each other without restriction. Your vision for your relationship is in congruence with who you are and what you both truly want. You have discussed your future together – you have similar life goals, and you feel encouraged to define your relationship further. Many couples decide to make a formal or public commitment to each other in this stage (such as marriage) to demonstrate their intention to continue their relationship. This is the stage in which your relationship becomes a true partnership.


Commiting to A Relationship

It is becoming more and more common to hear of women being unable to commit. Decades ago, women not being able to commit was literally unheard of because it was always the man who had the commitment issues. Nowadays, women have just as many reasons as men do for not wanting to get serious in a relationship, if not more.

One of the first reasons women why women can’t commit is because most have already been involved in at least one very painful relationship. A lot of women who have been hurt would rather not wear plus size bustiers rather than get back involved with another guy. It isn’t that women won’t date; it is just that they don’t want to get serious. They want to keep things “just so” because they don’t want to risk getting hurt again.

Another one of the reasons why some women can’t become committed is because they have already made assumptions about what a serious relationship involves. Some women find the whole concept of committing to be quite like tying themselves up, walking into a trap, locking the door, and throwing away the key. In short, many women look at getting involved in committed relationships the same way they do a prison. They are afraid of being tied down.

There will always be women who want to live their lives and have someone on the side. It is hard for them to picture having a dominant individual help them run things. Too many women are intimidated by serious relationships because they don’t want anyone telling them what to do. The bottom line is that they don’t want to be controlled and/or smothered.

In many cases, women will hesitate to commit because they have previously been involved in an abusive relationship. They will hold back because they don’t want the same things happening again. It can be very frustrating and hurtful to fall for a woman who won’t commit. Heck, you’re more likely to get more out of a piece of plus size corset than you are a woman like this. But do not blame her, because it isn’t her fault.

The best way to deal with a woman who has commitment issues is to simply be there for her. Since most of them are dealing with a lot of personal problems, it will help if you support her all the way. Women who have been hurt or have the wrong perceptions about serious relationships need all of the kindness and support they can get. Many of them are simply confused. Although, some women who won’t get deeply involved are just selfish and immature, quite like a lot of men who are the same way.

If you have gotten somewhat involved with a woman who won’t settle down and let you closer to her on a more intense level, then all you can do is be patient. You save might want to try talking to her about what her reasons are for not wanting to get close. Let her know that she can talk to you about anything, and always be there to listen. Once she realizes she can trust you, commitment will no longer be an issue.